Destiny Felinah and 2025

How did we get here?

Thing is, I don’t know how we ended up in June 2025…

“I already have an idea of what I want to do in 2025 (actually, I have the goals written down already).”

That was me last year, November 2024.

I entered 2025 even before the year began.

I had this sharp clarity on what I wanted for the new year.

I had it all written down

• 2025 is my Marcus Aurelius year (whatever that meant)…

• My year of endless possibilities…

• More than double the income I made from my brand last year…

• Apply for global opportuities so I can travel out of Nigeria for the first time…

It wasn’t coming from nowhere—the faith, energy, and passion.

2024 was a good year.

I was intentional

I geniunely put in the work

Overcame a couple of fears

And I saw the results.

2025 was a continuation of everything I had started, pushed, and built in 2024 with my sweat and tears.

The 2025 I got

• January: I ended 2024 very exhausted and took a while just breathing and laying out my plans for Q1 (especially all I’ll do the moment I returned to my space in Abuja from Port Harcourt).

• February: I finally returned to Abuja to start my year/life, got a new client outside of my full-time job, and started making videos again (10 days series with lots of resources to create).

• March: I started making plans to go back to Port Harcourt by the end of the month (my loved ones were getting married). I started handling a lot all at once. I also started going to the gym. Lots of planning, gym, full-time job, creating content, taking a course, managing a new client, planning to host live cohort classes (which I ended up cancelling)… I spiralled.

• April: It seemed like my brain slowed down at this point. I made the tough decision of quitting my nice job. The only consist thing I did was go to the gym. I missed my flight, paid the price, and ended up in Port Harcourt.

• May: Wedding, weddings, ceremonies. Moving from house to house. And fiinally decidng it’s time to run a service business.

• June: Here we are…

It was just too fast. 2025 has been too fast.

I was either moving around or preparing to move around.

June has been the only month where I am sitting put.

It feels like I just got the chance to start the year—and it’s already the sixt month.

What Next?

Now we are here, what’s the new plan?

Get the most done in the remaining six month or just let it be?

Initially, the plan was to get back to Abuja in June and lock down till the end of the year to hit my goals, but everything changed.

I changed.

It’s almost like my spirit, soul, and body hit pause.

There is no desire in me to rush anything. My entire being is quiet and the most I can do is write—or think of writing.

The fight for legacy

2025 have taken such a different turn that has caused a fight inside me.

31st December 2024, I was in church shouting, ‘this is my year of legacy’.

I came into the year to BUILD.

And now, my entire existence just wants to exisit—and it feels so right.

It feels so right to be slow.

It feels so right to show up only occasionally.

Yet it feels so wrong.

Being in my 20s and watching others be adults has made me realize just how ‘bad’ simply exisiting has become.

A good year is the year you get the most done, not the year you rested the most.

It’s laziness, taking a long gap year off to just process the transition you’re going through.

Gap years don’t exisit—at least they are not for people in their 20s.

Thinking of taking one? Just prepare to start from scratch when you return.

Technology, trends, and opportunities will not wait for you.

Those who weren’t taking a ‘break’ and capitalizing on the new waves will be masters and owners of the field by the time you get back.

Let it be. As for me, I’ve chosen to exit in “my life” as it is.

What’s so bad in my goals taking a little bit longer to be completed?

For now:

It feels good to not have a job, for now.

I don’t have a strong desire to reach so many new clients for my business, I’m okay managing the ones I already have, for now.

I like that I can go to the gym any time of the day.

I am not ready to start a content series, I’m learning to be consistent again.

I want to read my Bible again.

I want to learn new healthy recipes. I can eat oats everyday but not my friends—or future husband.

It would be nice to have a garden.

I’m taking in my space because I’ll have to move again sometime.

I hope I can read books again and take my courses—that would be a milestone!

It would be even more phenomenal if I could write more.

I like going to bed early, for now.

And what a priveldge it would be if God can lead me day by day.

I don’t need the full picture (yet), day by day is sufficient and more intimate.

Today was good enough, I’ve finally published my first newsletter in 2025.

‘For now’ is good enough plan for now.

Talk soon.

DF